
No, I don’t mean the vanilla definition of holding back! I mean the actual apparatus in the average toy bag of any one of our wonderful kinky community members!
I was gifted a matching set of wrist and ankle restraints from my Dominant a few months ago in my favorite color of baby
pink. I love to match and these go perfectly with my aftercare blanket—also a gift from Her.
In the beginning, when I first started to wear them, I was not sure I liked the feeling right away. Each piece of the set was added one at a time over the course of several weeks. The new adornments took some getting used to. As time went on, I have come to adore wearing them whenever I am home and feel almost naked without them whenever I am outside of the house and have come to greatly dislike taking them off. I would love to figure out a way to wear them all the time and welcome ideas if anyone has any—but I don’t think that is a possibility in our current vanilla societal state.
There is some formal procedure that has developed with them as well. I like to have them put on me when I get home and that act is done very lovingly and with hugs. It’s also become symbolic to me in that it’s become part of a daily ritual I really look forward to. Being bound like that reminds me of my place, my service orientation, and the feelings of trust and love that exist between us—it goes deeper than that though for me.
I have found that a part of me really needs that symbolic and physical connection to my submission. The restraints have been added to this category along with a necklace I always wear. The necklace has an antique key (my symbol) we found together on one of our antiquing expeditions and a new addition of a Vintage Victorian Hairbrush Charm—again another sweet gift. Some people have told me that I sometimes toy with the charms around my neck. I realize that they have become a comfort to me and a reminder of what life is really all about—love, connections, truth, trust, and passion.
Love of others and self
Connections with humanity, animals, earth mother and within
Truth in thoughts, words, and deeds
Trust in others and self
Passion to really live, even when you think your ember may be burnt out—there’s always a spark hiding amongst even the blackest of coals.

Having both these symbolic physicality’s on my person is something that is really satisfying. I feel loved, empowered, safer, and I just feel more… period— because every time I move I am aware of their presence. The addition of the restraints makes me more conscious of certain everyday acts such as getting dressed, showering, washing my hands, cleaning, and typing even. I get to think about them several times a day—which is the point.
They are an exquisite constant….